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Principles on how to choose Toys and Activities

What is our direction? What are our aims?

Our direction is to encourage the child to use his/ her mind more, to engage less in sensory stimulation, and to develop his/her social, interactive and imaginative, symbolic functioning.

This means we want to avoid too much purely sensual stimulation (e.g. tickling, chasing, swings, waterplay), especially with a child who tends to get lost in it.


Principles for choosing a toy

Is it .../ Can we make it more.../ Does it have the potential to be more...

multi-functional or restricted
versatile or fixed/ right-wrong use
extendable   limited to this one toy
     
contained/ containable or too many bits/ uncontainable
solid/ safe or breakable/ hard/ unsafe
replaceable or precious/ expensive
     
interactive, social or solitary
co-operative or competitive
(playing together)
(I win/ you win)
     
playful or ‘teacher-ish’
fun or right-wrong use
growth-promoting or time-filler
     
mental, symbolic or sensory stimulation
creative or mechanical responses
imaginative or automatic

Questions to ask yourself:

Does this toy encourage playfulness?

Does it encourage child to think ‘What can I (the child) do with it?’

Can it easily be made interactive/ sociable?

Can the use of this toy easily be extended?

Can it’s use easily be shared in different modalities?

e.g. visual (talking about the puzzle child is doing), singing + actions

Does this toy provide child with a sense of containment?

- both from the toy’s perspective (= not too many bits, or containers for ‘bits’) and

- from the child’s emotional point of view

i.e. does it allow playing with child’s ideas/ pre-occupations/ anxieties

e.g. mouths, holes, teeth, biting, aggression, anger, hate, loss, aloneness

Does it lend itself to more mental rather than purely sensory uses?

Does it lend itself to early differentiation/ concept formation?
in-out, there-gone, mine-yours, this-that

Can it’s use easily be extended?
multi-functional or restricted
versatile or fixed/ right-wrong use
e.g. bricks, little people, containers, stacking beakers, marble run
not: mechanical, battery-operated, cause-effect plastic toys,

Our direction is to encourage the child to use his/ her mind more, to engage less in sensory stimulation, and to develop his/her social, interactive and imaginative, symbolic functioning.

symbolic - e.g. drawing

imagination - e.g. pretend

co-operative

picture books